Knowing When to Use the Right Words

 I have not given up getting my unpublished book “The Split Second:  In Consideration of Others or Look Up from the Phone and How to Deal with Rudeness in Others” published. There is some “pushback” against my concept of a society where we all get along and are nice to each other. Then there are others who have been wonderfully supportive of me to go on with this project. I am incredibly grateful to them. I hope I can get the good word out there. That is the hard part for me, right now.

I have been discussing thoughts about watching what we say. I have touched upon the notion that many people want to be able to “shoot from the hip” or express what they are thinking whether those thoughts are incredibly positive and uplifting or quite negative and even condescending. . . . .  and there is no filter in expressing any of those thoughts.

However, I do not want to give readers the concept that they have to “stop in their tracks” while living life and think about everything they should say and take several minutes doing so. This is why I call my book “The Split Second.” Think for a minute about what is the best and most appropriate comment to make at a given time.

While I want people to “speak their minds” and be able to express themselves openly, I am suggesting there is a nice and mostly tasteful way to do so. Also, there is the time and place to “shoot from the hip,” and then the instance not to do so at all. I used to discuss this matter with students. I would say that if you are working at the jewelry counter at Macy’s, you better watch what you say. When you are partying with your friends on Saturday night, it may not matter so much. Wisdom is in knowing the difference.

My book is about thoughtfulness for others and openly showing it. Many have told me that this is slipping away in society. I believe that we can truly become a society where we can all think of others as we “go out in the world.”  It must start somewhere, and I am willing to be a pioneer to bring it back into society.